Throughout all of the forty-plus years I've been parenting, the most consistent tantrum advice from child rearing experts has been for parents to ignore every tantrum. The theory behind this technique of ignoring tantrums, to my understanding, is that ignoring tantrums prevents their validation. The ignore-the-tantrum parent avoids rewarding a child for tantrums and avoids reinforcing any negative behavior with any attention.
According to such a don't-reinforce-negative-behavior theory, in this scenario the underlying beliefs are that the child is throwing the temper tantrum for the purpose of garnering undeserved attention (which amounts to negative behavior), and if the parents avoid reinforcing such negative behavior, it should actually go away, stop, and cease to happen. In spite of this theory behind ignoring-tantrums techniques, throughout history of parenting advice, most parenting advice givers who've recommended using the techniques have not claimed that it stops tantrums in progress or prevents them.
Just a few short decades ago, experts still weren't putting the word prevention in the same sentence along with the word tantrum. Their advice was given only to teach parents the best ways to deal with and manage the tantrums, much the same as is the case today. However, current parenting experts now inform parents on how to prevent a portion of the temper tantrums by handling the child's tantrum triggers, such as tiredness, frustration, and hunger. Or in other words, these parenting advisers teach parents to prevent the tiredness, frustration, and hunger in their children. They don't actually teach parents how to prevent tantrums in their children's normal living, which occasionally includes hunger, frustration, and tiredness.
My method for temper tantrum elimination and prevention is hugely different from various other methods. I enlighten parents as to how to respond to their children and infants in a way that nullifies the need to be vigilant and to watch for tantrum triggers (which are really anger triggers). This occurs because the typical infant and childhood frustrations no longer trigger temper tantrums. In spite of this theory being behind the ignoring-tantrums technique, through the modern history of parenting advice giving, most experts who have recommended using this technique haven't made claims that it prevents tantrums or stops them in progress.
I teach parents to totally, 100% eliminate temper tantrums from their children's behavioral repertoire so there are no longer any tantrums in progress to have to stop, handle, manage, or deal with. I also teach parents to consistently respond to their newborn infants in ways that the babies never develop a tantrum-throwing pattern or even of escalating when angry. I teach parents these abilities with clarity and with many examples in hopes that they will learn them quickly and easily.
According to such a don't-reinforce-negative-behavior theory, in this scenario the underlying beliefs are that the child is throwing the temper tantrum for the purpose of garnering undeserved attention (which amounts to negative behavior), and if the parents avoid reinforcing such negative behavior, it should actually go away, stop, and cease to happen. In spite of this theory behind ignoring-tantrums techniques, throughout history of parenting advice, most parenting advice givers who've recommended using the techniques have not claimed that it stops tantrums in progress or prevents them.
Just a few short decades ago, experts still weren't putting the word prevention in the same sentence along with the word tantrum. Their advice was given only to teach parents the best ways to deal with and manage the tantrums, much the same as is the case today. However, current parenting experts now inform parents on how to prevent a portion of the temper tantrums by handling the child's tantrum triggers, such as tiredness, frustration, and hunger. Or in other words, these parenting advisers teach parents to prevent the tiredness, frustration, and hunger in their children. They don't actually teach parents how to prevent tantrums in their children's normal living, which occasionally includes hunger, frustration, and tiredness.
My method for temper tantrum elimination and prevention is hugely different from various other methods. I enlighten parents as to how to respond to their children and infants in a way that nullifies the need to be vigilant and to watch for tantrum triggers (which are really anger triggers). This occurs because the typical infant and childhood frustrations no longer trigger temper tantrums. In spite of this theory being behind the ignoring-tantrums technique, through the modern history of parenting advice giving, most experts who have recommended using this technique haven't made claims that it prevents tantrums or stops them in progress.
I teach parents to totally, 100% eliminate temper tantrums from their children's behavioral repertoire so there are no longer any tantrums in progress to have to stop, handle, manage, or deal with. I also teach parents to consistently respond to their newborn infants in ways that the babies never develop a tantrum-throwing pattern or even of escalating when angry. I teach parents these abilities with clarity and with many examples in hopes that they will learn them quickly and easily.
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